Friday, April 12, 2013

Dear Bully (a bit off topic)

This is not at all cake related but so relevant in todays society, which is sad. Bullying seems to be getting worse and worse each year and if I can help just one person with my story then it was well worth it.

I lived in a small town with several elementary schools that merged into one middle school and high school. Elementary school was good to me, I made a bunch of friends and enjoyed my time there. When I entered middle school, it was about the same time that puberty hit. 7th grade wasn't bad, as new friends were being made and everyone warmed up to the idea that it was kind of like starting over. New school, more friends. It wasn't until 8th grade that I started to realize my body was a bit different than other girls my age. I had developed a larger chest (which runs in the family) and I wore baggy clothes to mask my embarrassment of my large chest and the comments I knew I would get from it.

Being of petite frame, a large chest and baggy clothes made me look a lot bigger than I really was. At 4'11" and 117 lbs, I was hardly fat but I remember the words that still cut me like a knife-Porky Pig. I would avoid the boy that called me that through out my entire 8th grade year. Sure you could say, "kids will be kids" or "he probably liked you" but those torments and hurtful comments still stick with me to this day. I would spend the year memorizing the hallways he would be at and the times he would be there and avoid those places like the plague. I was so embarrassed when I would run into him and others would hear what he said. After a tough 8th grade year, I entered high school thinking that maybe things would change and people would grow up a bit. I still wore looser clothing and avoided the kid that instilled such negative thoughts about myself into my mind. He still took every opportunity to make me feel awful but it wasn't until another boy stood up in front of my entire class at the time (I don't remember the class but I remember the comment like it was yesterday) and told me that I needed to go on Jenny Craig that my thoughts about myself reached an all time low. I remember crying at home just wondering what I had done to deserve such mean treatment. From that day forward, I wore tighter clothes and the teasing stopped but the hurtful words stayed in my brain.

At 30, you would think that those words an 8th and 9th grader said to me so many years ago would be a thing of the past, but it is still with me. With me when I look in the mirror, with me when I work out, with me every time a lift a fork to my mouth. I've finally realized, the more I talk about it, the more I can teach others to think before you speak. Really think about how your words affect others, not just in the moment, but for a lifetime. I hope those boys, who I am sure have kids now, never have to deal with their kids being bullied and I hope they teach them to be kind. I find myself terrified that my daughter will be entering the school system next year and I dread the day she comes home in tears because of the actions of another kid, cause we all know, it's bound to happen. At least I know that I will do my part to make sure my daughter doesn't have an ounce of hate in her and that kindness and love speak so much louder than hate!

Until next time,
Lacey Cakes

Friday, April 5, 2013

Flirty 30

Hello again to my faithful followers, all 6 of them ;)  I have been a bit MIA lately.  I remember last year writing about one of my new years resolutions being to blog more...well that didn't go so well haha.  Maybe this year I can try it again (even though it is already 1/4 into the year and this is my first post :/ )

I recently celebrated a milestone birthday, the big 3-0.  I can't say that I was thrilled to let my 20's be a thing of the past, but it has proven to be okay so far.  I had originally planned this over the top, 50 Shades of Grey themed "dirty 30" birthday bash for myself.  Everyone was going to wear gray, have masquerade masks on and we were going to celebrate eating foods that reminded us of the books and the characters that made the book so interesting ;) Submissive Subs, Bow 'tie me up' pasta, red room of pain velvet cupcakes, vanilla cupcakes, soft limits taffy, hard limits candy, you get the point.  Well finally I decided, why am I throwing my own party and causing myself stress on my own birthday!?!?!  I called the party off and planned on just having a stress free, low key get together with friends and family. 

On the Saturday before my birthday, we had some friends visiting from out of town and my friend Jaime and I went to get our nails done.  My husband made the appt, which was a little odd, but I didn't think much of it.  When we got to the nail salon, the nail tech asked to look at my nails.  I wasn't quite sure why she needed to see my nails as I had planned on just getting a quick mani/pedi.  She kept pushing getting fake nails to make them longer because I am a biter :)  I had just taken a set off and my nails were still thin from it, so I didn't really want to damage them more.  Finally Jaime said that Todd insisted I get the fake set.  I text Todd asking why I had to get them, because this was MY birthday weekend :)  He told me to stop being difficult and to do what he said.  I had a nail color all picked out and the tech came out with a printed out nail design based on one of the 50 Shades book covers. 

From what I was told, we were going out to dinner as a family to celebrate my upcoming day.  I thought maybe he just wanted me to have a piece of the book I loved so much since I wasn't doing the big party.  After my nails were dry, the tech led me back to the waxing room.  My first thought was, OH GEEZ, NOW WHAT!!!!!  Inside the room, she told me to change into a purple dress that had been left there for me (for anyone who hasn't read the books, Anna's favorite dress is purple).  On the box of shoes that were also left was a note saying: "Put this on and meet me at home. -Mr. Grey".  Then I got to thinking, maybe he is taking me to Seattle ;)  I put the dress on and Jaime and I headed back to our house.

When we got back to the house, I did suspiciously look around to see if there were any cars I recognized haha.  There weren't of course.  When I opened the door, to my surprise, a huge SURPRISE was shouted at me!!! 

It took me a while to take everything in.  There were all of my closest friends and family, wearing gray, in masks ready to celebrate my 30th.  As I looked around, I saw the vanilla and red velvet cupcakes, little wine with gray stripped straws, chocolate "keys to the playroom", submissive subs, sea salt chips, bow "tie me up" pasta!!! Everything I had envisioned for my own party was right in front of me and I didn't have to do any of the work!  It was fabulous!  My mom put together all the little details of the party, with help from my hubby, aunt and close friends as if she had been in my head!  I could not believe all the details and work that they had put into it!



We had a fabulous evening and I felt so special that I got to spend it with all my favorite people!  Hope you guys enjoy the pictures as much as I enjoyed telling you about the party :)

Until next time,
Lacey Cakes

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

It's Jungle Time

Well it has been a little while since my last post, and for good reason :)  My hubby is finally home from a 7 month deployment and my time has been devoted to him and our family for the past month.  That doesn't mean I haven't been busy coming up and styling parties (the ideas never stop churning around in my mind).  My most recent party was for a dear friend of ours who after years of trying, she and her husband are finally about to welcome their first bundle of joy, a little boy named Ryan.

The mommy and daddy to be had first thought they were not going to find out the gender of the little peanut, so we settled on a gender neutral, safari/jungle theme.  After not being able to handle the suspense, they decided to find out the gender and it is a BOY!!  I also had the pleasure of designing the cupcakes for their gender reveal party, which I will share in another post.

Since the safari/jungle theme still fit, we decided to keep it.  For the shower, I designed a dessert table, fit for the king of the jungle.  With a custom backdrop to look like jungle vines and glass palm trees with brown gumballs, the table was the draw of the party.  I got burlap at our local Joann's and used it for the table covering and hand made a custom banner out of felt that the guests of honor could hang above the crib in the nursery.  I found a great burlap lined basket at our local Marshall's, turned it upside down and used it to elevate the cupcake stand.  The cupcakes stand and hand cut palm leaves and was custom made for this event.

As for the desserts on the table (the best part of the table), the mommy-to-be wanted Lemon/Blueberry cupcakes.  I handmade fondant cupcake toppers that were both 3D and 2D, as well as some that were animal print to go on top of the yummy cakes.  The dessert table also had hand dipped marshmallow pops, sugar cookie cut outs shaped like bananas and a small candy buffet. 

As for the decor, we hung multi-colored green streamers on the light fixtures to resemble jungle vines and placed baby jungle animals in the center of the tables as well as on the autograph table (that the mommy and daddy-to-be could use in the little guys nursery as well) with green jungle vines around them.

For the games, the guests were greeted with a small pacifier necklace for the "Don't Say Baby" game ( pretty self explanatory, say baby and someone gets your necklace.  Person with the most necklaces at the end of the shower wins), and also played "What's in the Diaper" (where guests have to guess what melted candy is in a diaper by smelling, tasting or whatever else someone could come up with), "Mold a Baby" (where guests molded a baby out of play-doh and the daddy-to-be picked the winner) and "Guess how many M&M's are in the bottle" (where guests took a guess on how many M&M's were in a giant bottle, closest to the correct number won).

For the food, sub sandwiches were provided by an AMAZING local sub shop, Hungry Bear Sub Shop.  The guests enjoyed the subs, as well as pasta salad, macaroni salad, chips and fruit.

After lunch, the guests enjoyed some swimming in the club house pool and some casual conversation before the Mommy-to-be opened all over her great gifts!

The party turned out great, and was one of the funnest I have done so far.  Hope you enjoy all of my crazy ideas!

Until Next Time,
Lacey Cakes

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Tangled in FUN!!

Yesterday we celebrated our daughter's 3rd birthday!  Hard to believe she is 3 already! I have been working on this party for a few months now and I have to say, it is my best one yet.  The details all came together so amazingly and everyone had a really good time!  I always love seeing a vision come all together and love seeing it turn out the way it was envisioned.

We started the celebration the day of her birthday and wanted to share her birthday day cake first :)

I started with awesome, homemade invitation inspired by Paging Supermom and designed by Courson Graphics

 The party was held at the Camp Pendleton Arts and Crafts Hobby Shop and the kids got to pick out and paint their own ceramics.  We spent time eating, painting and enjoying the company and at the end of the party, we even got a special visit by Rapunzel herself!  The ladies at the Hobby Shop went above and beyond and really made the party effortless!

  I tried a backdrop for the first time and replicated the mural on Rapunzel's tower wall.  It turned out great and really pulled the entire table together.  I used some retaining wall bricks to set the custom cupcake/cake tower up higher and to also provide some height for the fruit and cheese and cracker trays.  I bought some easels at Michael's to label the foods and used some yellow lilies from our yard, along with some ferns to add a little floral to the table. We braided a long braid using yellow yarn to wind through the table and to also greet the guests as they entered the party room. I used a pennant stencil designed by Courson Graphics and cut out flags of purple felt as well as yellow bursting suns to make a Happy 3rd Birthday banner that hung above the table.

As for the food, we used some fruits and cheese, crackers and salami to stay with the theme as well as some adorable jello boats using blue Jello with a slice of orange and the town flag on a toothpick to act as the canoe Rapunzel and Flynn Rider used to view the floating lanterns.  I also tried out ice cream cone cupcakes for the first time and decorated the outside of the cone to look like Rapunzel's tower and piped some purple frosting to act as the roof.  I added some colored gumballs and some marshmallow pops with cake pop petals to make them look like flowers to the table.

For the main course we did simple turkey and cheese sandwiches from our local mom and pop sandwich shop that were amazing and perfecting put together by the shop!  If you are ever in the Southern California area, I strongly suggest trying out Hungry Bear Sub Shop in Escondido...AMAZING and a pound of meat on each sandwich!

My favorite part of the party was the cupcakes and cake.  I made the cupcake toppers, pulling inspiration from the movie.  There were 5 different toppers: Pascal inspired, cast iron skillet, braided hair, paint set and a bursting sun.  All the toppers topped off a Lemon Blueberry cupcake that was a new recipe for me and it was very yummy!  As for the cake, I decided to try the Ombre style, using 3 different colors to match the purple color scheme.  I topped the cake off with the Rapunzel inspired cake topper I had made with a small town square pennant behind her.  The cupcakes, as well as the cake were all placed on a custom cupcake/cake stand that I made with a tutu on the bottom tier and the center pillar looking like the tower with braided hair circling the tower.

For the favors, I purchased tiny cast iron skillets online from Ron's Home and Hardware and filled them with custom M&M's with my daughters photo on them.  I also purchased some simple, small purple bags from the Dollar Tree and cut out a bursting sun and glued them on the bag to look like the town flag.  I filled them with "Rapunzel's Paints", princess lip gloss, comb and mirror, Tangled towel, princess wand, princess book and Tangled gummies.  I hand made the party hats using a template I found at Oh Happy Day.  I cut them out of purple card stock and attached a yellow card stock bursting sun to go with the theme of the day.  I hand braided yellow yarn and attached it coming out of the top of the party hat to look like Rapunzel's hair!

Thank you again to all our amazing friends and family who shared the special day with us!  Hope you all enjoy the pics!

Until next time,
Lacey Cakes

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Land of the Free BECAUSE of the Brave

Remember those who have paid the ultimate sacrifice for our country so that we may enjoy our freedoms! Tomorrow, It is the day, and should be everyday, that we should be thankful to those who have laid their lives down for us. Happy Memorial Day from Lacey Cakes and don't forget our men and women who are still fighting for our opportunity to enjoy our BBQs and family time!

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Thursday, May 24, 2012

Busy Busy!!

I have been quite the busy body the last couple of weeks with my cupcakes toppers.  A birthday, tea party, graduation and baby shower have all been on my list of toppers to design and create as well as a special one for the upcoming Memorial Day holiday and a 3D cake topper for my daughters 3rd birthday in a couple weeks.

Mother's Day weekend, I thought I would throw a ladies tea party for all the lovely ladies, mothers,  and friends in my life.  I designed some super cute, button/vintage inspired tea party cupcake toppers that turned out so cute and looked even better on the Peanut Butter and Jelly and Boston Cream Pie cupcakes they went on :) Yes you read right, Peanut Butter and Jelly AND Boston Cream Pie cupcakes!  They were divine!   I also took my first stab at decorated sugar cookies.  They were not the greatest, but for my first try, I think they turned out great and tasted even better.  I think they were the biggest hit of the party. The party turned out wonderful and everyone, including myself, had such a fabulous time.  It's always nice to develop an idea in your head of a party and see it come to life! Here are some shots of the fun party:

 I gave you all a quick sneak peek of the Starbucks and Twilight inspired toppers a couple weeks ago that I created for my friend Carrie's birthday and added to that with a set of shopping/purse toppers and Iphone inspired toppers.  They turned out super cute and I got tons of compliments from the folks at the restaurant where her birthday dinner was held.  It's always nice to hear that your work is admired, especially after the hours that go into creating the pieces.  I also have been working on more graduation toppers for my upcoming trip to Washington state to see my little cousin graduate from high school.  Can't even believe the day has come!  I still remember her toothless grin singing LFO's Summer Girls many, many years ago.

The baby shower toppers I have been working on were a first to me.  I took some inspiration from Lynlee's Petite Cakes and also from several other pics on Pinterest (my go to for inspiration).  I have a couple more in mind to create as well and will give you guys a peek when they are all done.  Here is a small sneak peek until then ;)

My Memorial Day topper is to be revealed the day of and has got to be one of the most detailed toppers I have worked on to date, and the one with the most meaning.  It's difficult celebrating holidays without my hubby, but this one is particularly hard because there are so many men and women who haven't and won't come home to their families so that we can spend this holiday BBQing with our families and enjoy the company of the people we love in a free country. On a weekly basis, I hear of ceremonies my husband attends to honor the fallen men and women as they take their final trip back to their families.  I can't imagine going through that and that is what this holiday is about.  Remember those who gave the ultimate sacrifice!

Lastly, I have been working on my first 3D cake topper, inspired by Rapunzel.  She stands about 6 inches tall and will be the topper of my daughters 3rd birthday cake :)  I was pretty pleased by how she turned out. Hope you like it ;)

Until next time,
Lacey Cakes :)